It’s hard to believe that tomorrow is 2019. Starting in January, our attention turns away from festivities and back to work. Some may view this with dread. I would strongly suggest you look at 2019 as the beginning of a new life. It’s a time to take stock of where you are now and what you’d like to become. The beginning of the New Year is a perfect chance for a fresh new start, working on improving yourself and seeking out a new job. Recently, I wrote “13 Things To Do Right Now To Successfully Land A New Job In 2019” to help you plan your job search. In addition to the practical advice, I’d like to offer you a brave way to change your life.
Let’s start with putting aside the traditional cliche New Year’s resolutions list and embark upon something bigger and better. We usually feel obligated to tell people of our intentions such as, “I’m going to join a gym, lose 10 pounds and run five miles a day!” More often than not, there is no follow through and the same resolutions will be talked about again next year.
Maybe we should forget about the stereotypical list of things that we feel we’re supposed to do. How about we take some quiet time and listen to our inner voice? We all have it. It’s the ongoing monologue playing in your mind all the time. It’s the negative thoughts that you try to suppress, the self-criticisms, laments and regrets. This voice also screams out what you really want to do with your life and the type of person you aspire to become.
For 2019, try listening to the positive voice and act upon it. Deep down, you truly know what you want to do with your life and the person you’d like to become. You keep it secretly hidden from your spouse, family and friends out of fear of what they’d think. It’s not the extra 10 pounds that you really care about; it’s taking control of your life and living up to your fullest potential that matters most.
It’s the gnawing feeling that you never wanted to be a lawyer, but chose that career path, as to not offend your parents. Now, 10 years later, you are trapped in a job that you hate. Even though the money is great and people attribute a certain status to you, you are living in a state of misery. The inner voice is screaming out that you don’t want to be an attorney, never cared about it and always wished to be a teacher. You dreamed of making a difference by helping kids learn and grow. You don’t have any interest whatsoever in reviewing boring contracts and arguing and fighting with other attorneys every day over a few dollars and some fine points in the 50-page agreements you slog through.
Year after year, you find excuses.
“How will I afford the mortgage?”
“What will people think of me?”
“Will they believe I was fired or burnt out?”
You put off making changes. This year’s resolution should be that you’ll finally go after what you really want in life.
So many of us spend our lives playing the part of what we think we are supposed to be—and do. We sleepwalk through the motions and feel unfulfilled, uninspired and lack purpose. It seems easier to keep dragging mindlessly forward rather than trying to change course. Before you know it, time goes by and you are not the person you want to be nor are you in the job that you desire. It is almost everyone’s dirty little secret. We are all living lives of quiet desperation—an endless loop of going to a job you hate and living a life that you don’t like.
This year, listen to and act upon that inner voice that is telling you, constantly badgering you and nudging you toward a certain direction. Go forward bravely and don’t worry if your dream job goes against the crowd, even if it means upsetting your parents or peers. Toss out the pretend resolutions and actively pursue what you really want, but have always ignored. In 2019, try being bolder, more adventurous, less fearful, emotionally and mentally stronger.
Forget about a New Year’s resolutions list and follow your inner voice that is screaming out for you to be the best version of yourself.